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Dear SK had to hijack my homework-attempts with a K-drama that featured *surprise* a love story between the super rich and the super poor. The formulaic fairy tale fantasy types that would get any girl dreaming of ever snagging a hot rich partner and the guys, a girl who's pretty... And attitude to boot.
But something in the show got me thinking. I was initially annoyed at the 'cheesy' plot and was being the irritating 'I-know-what-he's/she's-going-to-do-next' self in my head, but when what I thought would be a template plot stopped being the way it was, I was caught.
The poor, strong-headed girl wanted to be herself as much as she could, and she did. But the rich young man also wanted to give her the best that he could, and he did (ok la because he could). Yet he couldn't accept it that she didn't put in her best to match up to him. He didn't want her to match up to him per se, but the lack of obvious consideration on her part miffed him. This got me thinking.
(I haven't watched through the show enough to know what she decides to do next.)
So could he have denied himself and disregard her dressing (or lack thereof), and yet also forgo his 'image' as a CEO of a large departmental store and all the regard that his staff gives him?
Or should she give up her feelings for him simply because he couldn't accept her for who she was (or was it pride?), and move on? But are his requests really too much to ask for—to the point that she should give him up?
How do we define what is being selfish—since we are to put others before ourselves? When do we stop 'being ourselves' for the sake of not being 'selfish'?
I've always felt that if a guy cannot accept me for who I wanted to be, too bad. But if I were to completely resist putting in effort in an area that he desired me to (i.e. appearance), would I be selfish? If he cared enough about his appearance so as to respect me, should I not do the same?
How far do I go being 'me' without being selfish? ><" How far do I deny my self without losing myself?
Ahhh. Sounds like a conversation I recently had, albeit slightly different contexts... So what is it really to be in a partnership love that is unconditional—agape? Hmm...
But something in the show got me thinking. I was initially annoyed at the 'cheesy' plot and was being the irritating 'I-know-what-he's/she's-going-to-do-next' self in my head, but when what I thought would be a template plot stopped being the way it was, I was caught.
The poor, strong-headed girl wanted to be herself as much as she could, and she did. But the rich young man also wanted to give her the best that he could, and he did (ok la because he could). Yet he couldn't accept it that she didn't put in her best to match up to him. He didn't want her to match up to him per se, but the lack of obvious consideration on her part miffed him. This got me thinking.
(I haven't watched through the show enough to know what she decides to do next.)
So could he have denied himself and disregard her dressing (or lack thereof), and yet also forgo his 'image' as a CEO of a large departmental store and all the regard that his staff gives him?
Or should she give up her feelings for him simply because he couldn't accept her for who she was (or was it pride?), and move on? But are his requests really too much to ask for—to the point that she should give him up?
How do we define what is being selfish—since we are to put others before ourselves? When do we stop 'being ourselves' for the sake of not being 'selfish'?
I've always felt that if a guy cannot accept me for who I wanted to be, too bad. But if I were to completely resist putting in effort in an area that he desired me to (i.e. appearance), would I be selfish? If he cared enough about his appearance so as to respect me, should I not do the same?
How far do I go being 'me' without being selfish? ><" How far do I deny my self without losing myself?
Ahhh. Sounds like a conversation I recently had, albeit slightly different contexts... So what is it really to be in a partnership love that is unconditional—agape? Hmm...
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